boundaries | shaktisundari

Why didn't you just say no?!

On crossed boundaries, delayed response & why women don't report sexual harassment. The other day I wrote a post about a bizarre...

Talking is taking

Hot on the heels of my Like A Pro training on Betty Martin's Wheel of Consent (the gold standard, when it comes to boundaries and...

THE 3 TANTRIC KEYS: LOVE, SANCTITY & SURRENDER

I was meditating this morning on my best ever sexual experiences to-date. "To-date" being important to note, since I anticipate my...

Healthily selfish

Let's talk about being selfish. In my own journey of healing and personal growth, I began to recognise, that what I thought was "selfish"...

Shadow feminine - which one are you?

There can be a lot of blame and shame talk about men and their sexual shadow. And it's understandable, when there is a history of so much...

Tough Love

Love isn't always soft and sweet. Sometimes it's fierce and confronting. Other times it firmly asserts boundaries. Love isn't about being...

What are you making love for?

My recently released book RAPTURE ends with 2 questions, one of which is: What are you making love for? As I sat with a client the other...

EMOTIONAL ALCHEMY

For far too long, emotions have been wrapped in shame, denial and judgement. In the patriarchal belief system, which has dominated our...

Boundaries & Consent

Believe it or not, I only learned about boundaries & consent in my first tantra workshop. At the tender age of 40 something. And it blew...