A week or so ago, a relating experience in my life threw up feelings of deep heart-ache, grief and vulnerability for me. Rejection, self-recrimination, shame, separation, not good enough, loneliness, longing, sexual frustration, an aching to be touched, hopelessness and victimhood were all moving through. It hurt. I'm super sensitive and feel very deeply. Each of these states created acute discomfort in my physical body. To the point where, in some moments, it was as much as
How many times have I chanted "Sat Nam" (truth is my name) in the past 11 years of practising Kundalini Yoga? How many times have I swooned to hear and sing along with Snatam Kaur's exquisite rendition of Jap Man Sat Nam with its heart-stirring refrain: "All my life, meditate on Sat Nam - the true name of my Beloved" (Oh, and if you really want to know, it must be at least 5000x for the first one and possibly 100 for the second). And yet how many times have I swallowed, over-
At a certain point on my journey into tantra, conscious relating and the embodiment of Shakti, I had to recognise that the men in my life and my relationships with them were a reflection of unconscious inner dynamics, born of my childhood and past experiences. In fact, it was the break-down of my second marriage after my husband’s infidelity and a 4-year sex-less hiatus, that led me onto this questing path in the first place. I knew I wasn’t happy and I knew that something ha
In my Awakening Shakti Online Group Programme for women just now, I am teaching on Authentic Power & Sovereignty. Anger is an important part of this teaching. Generally speaking, women have been taught to suppress their anger and men learn to project it out in what can quickly become aggression or violence. Man's fear of a woman's wrath can lead him to withdraw, shut down or attempt to defend himself by pointing out her irrationality or staking a claim to greater authority. W
In modern society, we have been socialised to separate ourselves off into disconnected parts and give our power away. We have our body. We have our mind. We have our emotions. And we have our Spirit. As if this isn’t already enough separation, we tend to regard our individual body parts or our many emotions and thoughts as distinct, rather than as part of a whole. Nestled still deeper yet within this endless categorisation and compartmentalisation, are those parts of ourselve
The other day, my newly 15 year-old daughter was waiting at the bus-stop to go meet some friends.
As she reported back to me later on, a car drove by and a man motioned out of the window as if to say "call me!"
And then shortly after that, two slightly older school boys came up to her and one said: "are you today's date? Because you're a 5 out of 10." (It was October 5th)
My daughter felt weird about both of these experiences and I can totally understand why. As a tende
Who’d have thought that in a workshop about Deepening into Love & Community, I’d end up making out with a tree, but that’s exactly what happened for me yesterday. I’m here in Greece as a Facilitator in Residence at the beautiful Alexandros centre: one of three holistic retreat and educational venues on Mount Pelion that form the Kalikalos community. And this week I am blessed to also be a participant on a workshop being offered by Achim Ecker and Ina Meyer-Stoll of the Zegg c
My amazing Dancing the Goddess course has been running for 7 weeks now. We've embraced Radha, Saraswati, Parvati, Kali, Durga and Sita thus far. And each evening has been an incredibly potent experience of Divine Feminine connection, awakening and transformation. As we prepare the altar each week and dress in the colours of the Goddess in residence, we've enjoyed dipping into the pinks, reds, whites and yellows in our wardrobe and bringing fresh flowers and fruit as decorat
Have you ever wondered what tantra is all about? Well, 10 years ago I did too. And it totally transformed my life. There I was: a single mother who’d not had sex for four and a half years, feeling insecure, disempowered, guilty and ashamed. I felt trapped and frustrated. Of course, this didn’t define me entirely and to the outer world, I probably presented as relatively normal and happy, but the biggest thing I remember from that time is the nagging sense of loneliness and i
So let me ask you something: When you hear about one of my women-only events, such as my weekly Dancing the Goddess course or upcoming Sacred Women’s Circle… what kind of response do you have? I ask, because when I invited a student along to Dancing the Goddess, she vehemently rejected the idea, on the basis that there is “a lot of bitchiness” when groups of women gather together. “Oh wow!” I thought. “What a terrible association to have with one’s own gender!” And then, of
When you hear the word “Goddess”, what's your immediate response?
Some women feel an instant resonance and calling.
Others imagine reference to something airy fairy, primped up or so removed from their lived reality that they can’t relate.
What if I let you into a secret?
In my eyes, by the very fact that you are a woman, you ARE a Goddess.
And, no, this doesn’t mean you have to go around wearing a tiara on your head, waving a magic wand and beaming love-heart
Enjoy this podcast in which Feminine Branding Expert, Ruqayya Daville, interviews me about the power of Feminine Energy. You'll hear me speak about my own connection with the body and nature from an early age, as well as my take on the power we hold as women and how to use feminine energy wisely, as well as how to balance and alchemise it with the masculine. #RadiantWomanhood #awakeningshakti #divinefeminine #feminineenergy #femininity
At the end of my Friday morning Kundalini Yoga class today, as my students and I slowly packed our mats and blankets away, I overheard one student (who was changing back into her “civvies” in the privacy of the yoga studio) say to the other: “that’s a really pretty dress… it looks so lovely on you.” As I came out of the studio to say goodbye to everyone, I noticed that same student’s hair, which had been striking me all morning as looking so beautifully wavy and wild. I told
I was discussing this recently with a female client, who did not feel feminine and wanted to connect more fully with her Feminine essence. She mentioned qualities such as grace, being pretty, flowing dresses and a sense of ease in the body. I wondered where, here, the imagined or culturally conditioned notion of femininity intersected with the actual felt sense of a woman deeply connected to her true nature. There is a big difference. If I look around me, there are many women