A week or so ago, a relating experience in my life threw up feelings of deep heart-ache, grief and vulnerability for me. Rejection, self-recrimination, shame, separation, not good enough, loneliness, longing, sexual frustration, an aching to be touched, hopelessness and victimhood were all moving through. It hurt. I'm super sensitive and feel very deeply. Each of these states created acute discomfort in my physical body. To the point where, in some moments, it was as much as

How many times have I chanted "Sat Nam" (truth is my name) in the past 11 years of practising Kundalini Yoga? How many times have I swooned to hear and sing along with Snatam Kaur's exquisite rendition of Jap Man Sat Nam with its heart-stirring refrain: "All my life, meditate on Sat Nam - the true name of my Beloved" (Oh, and if you really want to know, it must be at least 5000x for the first one and possibly 100 for the second). And yet how many times have I swallowed, over-

In my Awakening Shakti Online Group Programme for women just now, I am teaching on Authentic Power & Sovereignty. Anger is an important part of this teaching. Generally speaking, women have been taught to suppress their anger and men learn to project it out in what can quickly become aggression or violence. Man's fear of a woman's wrath can lead him to withdraw, shut down or attempt to defend himself by pointing out her irrationality or staking a claim to greater authority. W

The other day, my gorgeous daughter, Rose, was asked out by a boy in her class. He then texted her to make two specific suggestions - they could go to the movies or out for a meal. Rose likes this boy: he's a friend and she enjoys his company. But she doesn't want to date him. She asked for my help in composing a kind response to him that would deliver a "no", yet be respectful of his feelings. I was really touched by the gallantry of this young man, as well as Rose's intenti

Last year I got badly burned in relationship. Not just a little boo-boo kinda burn, but what felt like third degree burns all over, inside and out. It was abusive and dysfunctional and I’ve written about it in 2 previous blogs (see them here and here). So I’m not going to re-hash that here. What I’m now interested in, and what a conversation with the amazing coach Jo Valentina-Sinclair got me thinking about, is: how do I safeguard myself against a repeat performance? and h

“Anger does not disappear as we evolve and in fact may become even more fiery, but it burns more and more cleanly, serving the well-being of all involved.” Robert Augustus Masters Having recently come out of an abusive relationship, I am, understandably, paying close attention to my boundaries. Recognising that I not only over-rode some subtle inner signals that things weren’t “right”, but also tolerated and made allowances for my partner’s increasingly cruel and aggressive

So my last blog, about my experience with a narcissist, caused quite a stir. I received scores of messages – both public and private – from people (99% of them women), who had experienced something similar – or far worse. They thanked me for speaking out and saying what they had been – or still are – afraid to voice. Many of them are still experiencing trauma and/or have needed years to recover. I was shocked and stunned. Admittedly, I didn’t know all of them personally. Bu

When I broke up with my Beloved and spoke openly about my pain, I was surprised by one comment from a friend (and fellow tantra teacher) that I should consider relating from a place of “conditional” as opposed to “unconditional” love. This totally threw me, as I have lived as an aspiring unconditional lover for many years, mindfully measuring my progress towards that elusive target and praying that one day I may attain that blissful state permanently in a moment of Great Awak

I’m a radiant woman. I teach others how to access their ecstatic aliveness. I’m a Priestess of Love and Sacred Sexuality. I love to dance, laugh and celebrate life. People consider me to be warm, open, bubbly and inspiring. But you know what? I don’t go around with a great big smile on my face all the time. And sometimes I get pissed off. Sometimes I’m sad. In fact, it’s fair to say that pretty much every emotion expresses itself through me in big and small ways in an

I was having a conversation with my Beloved the other night, in which I named my belief that the shadow work we are doing is not only for us, but the collective. It’s my firm belief that whatever love-limiting behaviours we do not resolve within ourselves as they arise in this present dance of intimacy (in to me see) will pop up again in any future relationship. I see this as the call to healing of my wounded places both as a unique individual and as a Priestess of the Goddes

Beloveds. On October 3rd, 2016, I connected with my Twin Flame. He lived on the other side of the world - in Australia. We had never met. A few weeks later, he flew over to meet me in person and we were reunited at Heathrow airport on October 24th. I say "reunited", because it was very clear to us both that although our bodies were meeting for the first time in this lifetime, our souls had yearned and quested for this moment for aeons. And so began our adventure of Divine